CONFIDENCE! That’s what girls are gonna say to those lonely, forlorn local lads in forums about their low self-esteem and despair over girls, or have they even dated yet? So the nightly lamentations, they cut and paste love poems, songs and even pictures that convey the agony of the forlorn. So what can be done or rather improve on? Now stop that NMNHNLM (No Money No Honey Nobody Loves Me) recitation. Now, focus. How to obtain or perhaps create confidence and it seems easier said than done? You can do it or at least try! . . . gzz! There, some helpful pointers!
Are you tired of the same old you in that mirror that reminds you of how ugly you think you are and a failure you were in all the dating fiascos. That face tells a lot about bitterness in the game of Love. Another day, the same old you drag yourself to work/school and spend another night back in that forum, creating the same old same old disheartening threads. For how long will you ever stay single and when will heaven actually send an angel, someone to walk into your world and share just everything and anything in life. Be your princess, your love, your wife! (I’ll skip the marriage nightmare in this post) Brace yourself, take a good look at yourself and for the first time, appreciate that face. Now a closer look, what have you missed out?
Facial expressions, your smile. Smiles are one of these features people take note of. Try a few different smiles, choose a nice one you think looks good. And listen to comments and observe others’ (girls of course) reactions to it. Are they comfortable with it. The basic smile leads when you get to know people and check on the rest, explore eyes and mouth, how you can create a “trademark” of yourself.
Hair. Try some colours and colours work wonders on a person’s first impression and appearance. Try different colours and maybe the hairstylist can offer a good advise. Do you know how great a difference between black and coloured hair? Hair colours makes one look younger maybe, confident, fun or just someone pleasant to look at. You don’t have to foray into funky, flamboyant colours that makes you a bozo or the patchy hamster dye. Just yellow, or reddish bronze colours will do. But again, colours works different wonders or damage. So, choose wisely!
Communication. The talking skill is a life time of learning. The art of cracking jokes and not facetious but jocular. Liven up conversations with topics that interest others. Like you know girls will doze off in any computer chats but the trick is. First find out about the person. Study through the short conversation, pick up the topics that she’s happily engage in and note it. But, don’t behave like charlatan and the trick is, if you are less knowledgeable that’s when you create enthusiasm in her topic. As if you are keen about it and err…willing to learn. The whole idea is, be someone that people enjoy talking with and share opinions in a comfortable manner. That’s when, someone lowers her defence, less restraint and so glad to see you and tell you about the whole world. Don’t keep talking about your own things and Army talks is a “no no” topic, it gets so boring! You think they care about how brave you were jumping out of that plane with parachute jammed up? But when you engage in other’s topic, also learn to pull some hand-breaks, don’t be too inquisitive. Remember, there is a sacred garden in every girl’s heart.
These are the basics. The rest is all up to you as an individual and that face, if you think you are ugly, now it’s time to ponder why are you complaining about some igor face having a fairy by his side. However, if you have contempt for other’s look, it shows that you thought highly about your own. There, answer is you aren’t that bad looking afterall. You admitted. If the “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, it works the same for guys. The rest are all about characters, social etiquette and I still believe in fine, well mannered gentlemen. But I don’t expect someone giving up his coat on a puddle of water or behaving like a chauffeur who opens doors. Sometimes, it’s the kind of ladies you’re after and girls, there are all kinds of girls and their different preferences on guys.
So, quit that damn forum and go out there, with a “re-engineered” new you. You’ll be confident with that change and big plans in mind. Because you see yourself differently from today onwards, that’s the confidence you have built for yourself. That mirror will henceforth, display a new guy. Not being yourself? You are, just the thing is, it’s a face-lift, newly improved character that you are comfortable with. You are revisiting yourself and doing amends to your flaws. You are also bringing out the good things in you that you have missed out all along, that girls haven’t seen. Show’em.
Last point of advise, trim nose hair. It’s irritating!
Facial expressions, your smile. Smiles are one of these features people take note of. Try a few different smiles, choose a nice one you think looks good. And listen to comments and observe others’ (girls of course) reactions to it. Are they comfortable with it. The basic smile leads when you get to know people and check on the rest, explore eyes and mouth, how you can create a “trademark” of yourself.
Hair. Try some colours and colours work wonders on a person’s first impression and appearance. Try different colours and maybe the hairstylist can offer a good advise. Do you know how great a difference between black and coloured hair? Hair colours makes one look younger maybe, confident, fun or just someone pleasant to look at. You don’t have to foray into funky, flamboyant colours that makes you a bozo or the patchy hamster dye. Just yellow, or reddish bronze colours will do. But again, colours works different wonders or damage. So, choose wisely!
Communication. The talking skill is a life time of learning. The art of cracking jokes and not facetious but jocular. Liven up conversations with topics that interest others. Like you know girls will doze off in any computer chats but the trick is. First find out about the person. Study through the short conversation, pick up the topics that she’s happily engage in and note it. But, don’t behave like charlatan and the trick is, if you are less knowledgeable that’s when you create enthusiasm in her topic. As if you are keen about it and err…willing to learn. The whole idea is, be someone that people enjoy talking with and share opinions in a comfortable manner. That’s when, someone lowers her defence, less restraint and so glad to see you and tell you about the whole world. Don’t keep talking about your own things and Army talks is a “no no” topic, it gets so boring! You think they care about how brave you were jumping out of that plane with parachute jammed up? But when you engage in other’s topic, also learn to pull some hand-breaks, don’t be too inquisitive. Remember, there is a sacred garden in every girl’s heart.
These are the basics. The rest is all up to you as an individual and that face, if you think you are ugly, now it’s time to ponder why are you complaining about some igor face having a fairy by his side. However, if you have contempt for other’s look, it shows that you thought highly about your own. There, answer is you aren’t that bad looking afterall. You admitted. If the “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, it works the same for guys. The rest are all about characters, social etiquette and I still believe in fine, well mannered gentlemen. But I don’t expect someone giving up his coat on a puddle of water or behaving like a chauffeur who opens doors. Sometimes, it’s the kind of ladies you’re after and girls, there are all kinds of girls and their different preferences on guys.
So, quit that damn forum and go out there, with a “re-engineered” new you. You’ll be confident with that change and big plans in mind. Because you see yourself differently from today onwards, that’s the confidence you have built for yourself. That mirror will henceforth, display a new guy. Not being yourself? You are, just the thing is, it’s a face-lift, newly improved character that you are comfortable with. You are revisiting yourself and doing amends to your flaws. You are also bringing out the good things in you that you have missed out all along, that girls haven’t seen. Show’em.
Last point of advise, trim nose hair. It’s irritating!
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